Facebook - How does it affects to Your life? Real Story
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"Faceruined" ? - Not alone!
We all want, in certain state of life, to follow all world trends. One of those "trends" that huge percentage of Internet users are follow is "Facebook". Facebook brought us new way of life. New way of life-style...New way of destroying some normal life values, and so much more.
Different experiences are telling me that I am not alone in these stories, and conclusions, that I am about to tell.
My whole life is about to be ruined. My family hates me...My younger sister,mother... They are "ashamed" of me, and sister is embarrassed with a fact that I am her brother and another thing that she(them) SAID TO ME IN FACE (my OWN mom and my OWN sister) is that I am an "object that's needed to be avoided whenever they met me in downtown/center of the town" .
I want to say, that this hub is not meant to disrespect or to tell negative things about Facebook, it is about to speak "out to the world" about my experience so You all could be maybe little bit more careful about activities on Facebook, and maybe to be aware that You are not alone in this situation.
BE AWARE!
Customizing your status,links,and shared-links is really important.Persons can, and some of them will, use your shared stats,links or "how do you feel" sentences to make a joke out of you,to laugh at your past, to use your published links and make their own "twisted" mind conclusions and then publish them ("twisted conclusions")...And, in an eye blink, you will be compromised and the target of really gossips that can siriously affect your private life. Be real careful what you SHARE and CUSTOMIZE YOUR PRIVACY IN ACCOUNT SETTINGS.
Troublemakers on "Facebook" - What can they do?
Being in the middle of nowhere... Being in situation where Facebook, an "virtual social network" a WEB SITE, affects your real life. In just matter of seconds, you can be hated, ashamed, embarrassed, or depressed... All that because of individuals, or individuals grouped in so called "groups". The worst profiles are those like " Little Gossip Girl " profiles, and those who can't find them-self's in real life,are making real trouble for persons that are there (on F.B Facebook.com) just for communicating or meeting,sharing,or whatever in meaning of sharing their way of thinking.
My experience is something that You all can learn from.I have around 1000 friends on Facebook, and I am not so "active" on Twitter - because it is not so popular here. Anyway, with my profile old about three years, I've had many,many problems because of Facebook in real life.As I was saying, my mom started to be ashamed of me because of my articles on Hub Pages, my sister's friends are asking her:" Is your brother an drug addict? " (I can imagine, how hard is it for her) , and having my profile and sharing my pages made on HP have put me, now, in really unpleasant situations. This is just something that happened lately. The worst part of sharing your "status", where it's clearly said what to write (What's on your mind) ! I can't explain how many misunderstanding I've gone trough. "Virtual Barbie's" and "Virtual Gangsters" followed by " Experienced Guys" - 14 years old - are those who are real trouble makers in real life of mine....and...maybe tomorrow Yours. Imagine next ... One "attractive blondie", actually an awkward loner with no life hiding behind profile of Facebook, having THOUSANDS of "friends" put the "status" that is PUBLIC like : " That and that (me,you...they) made love with him/her, there and there." or " XXXXXXX is the biggest bitc%# of the city, she have fu#%# with XXXXXX on Friday." Or, even worst : " The professors son XXXXX, is ex heroin addict. He was using heroin along with XXXX XXXX for N years." . Is that okay? Can you imagine how many people saw that? THOUSANDS OF! And to tragedy be even worse, usually those kind of person "seduce" some guy with high-libido, or some tippy teenager - and make him/or even her to share the same status and to DO some things IN REAL LIFE. So, the next thing, that we all can expect is to be stabbed because of jealousy of the Ms. or Mr. "Hiding-behind-the-profile" - and they are untraceable.
What can we expect tomorrow?
What is next? Can we have our own privacy ? Yes, there are customized settings to make your status,links,page-links etc visible for only for people ( " friends " ) you want.But, where is that real problem ?! The real problem is, beside upper described that's mostly the matter of " twisted minds " and those who have a goal to harm others, the problem is that THESE SETTINGS - for customizing Your privacy - are not emphasized. Be careful when it's about these settings.There are plenty of them, so called "friends", who badly wait for some new thing like mine new hub about my addiction, to abuse it and make a joke of You and Your true feelings.
CUSTOMIZING YOUR PRIVACY - GUIDE
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Like everything in life we need to watch what we say because not everyone with agree or should agree. I personally don't share my writings from HubPages on Facebook because some of my articles would hurt others feelings. Just because I feel a certain way doesn't mean others will understand or should, for that matter.
But You do understand the risk and what made me - inspired me - to write this. I mean, this is really going ... WHERE ??? That is why I wrote an additional text capsule what can we expect tomorrow..
Thank you for commenting - I see it as a way of support.
Deep lafamillia, I think that's the reason I give so much praise to finding Hub Pages , but the little cliche which says to me , never dam the bridge you cross. Speaks volumes .
Thanks man
Blessings ...
Very nice!!!!
great post
@jesusmyjoy
Thank You so much. Read my other hubs. I think they will interest You as well as this did... or twice as that ;)
Lucky Cats Level 7 Commenter 7 months ago
Hi there lafamillia! First of all, I am very sorry that your family has rejected you because of the silliness and, someimes, inane world of Facebook. You have stated quite a truth; that people can and do hide behind 'profiles' and images which do not represent who they are, at all. It is a common and growing phenomenon that attacks are escalating on social networking sites...and, in some cases; the victim of such insults end up taking their own lives. This is the world in which young people, in particular, find themselves...a brave new world of infinite possibilities as well as a myriad of potentially harmful and negative eventualities.
I hope it helps to know that you are not alone in this and, more than likely, your antagonizers are not acting against you personally but, rather, are emotionally and intellectually retarded people who look for targets on which to express their own massive lack of self worth.
If you can, talk with your family. Show them this hub and remind them, in a loving and gentle way; that you are "la famillia." Your hub name says so much about what is of value. Hopefully, they will hear you and welcome you back into the fold and safety/assurance of family love.
I have a suggestion. Actually; several. 1) stay off of FB for a while..just don't go there; don't place your energy in that realm and, 2) Keep in mind that anyone using the names you've listed in this hub are prone to be trouble. The names they've chosen say much about who they are and what they're about. Block them.
Good luck to you.